Yes, you're shocked to the core by a cutting comment that has left you feeling as if your body has been sliced in half. The comment was uncalled for, unforeseen and uncomplimentary. You are doubly hurt because the sentiments in the comment are alien to you, your thoughts and personality.

To make matters worse you had never seen this side of the other person's character before and you just didn't see the comments coming. You are hurt,saddened and your mind is confused by the onslaught.





How do you handle such a situation. How do you get to grips with it. How do you overcome the pain you experience in your mind.

Well, as soon as you can and as hard as it may be, ask God to forgive the individual concerned. Then ask God to give you the wisdom and strength you need to overcome your hurt which incidentally, will include you forgiving the individual within yourself.

You do not need to stay in the company of someone who speaks angrily and cannot control their tongue.
If it is too much for you to bear, slowly back away from them. If they speak to you again, but in a calmer manner, you can always acknowledge them. It will help you grow.

You do not however need to search out their company. Let them be and show them, from a distance, the quality of your own lifestyle, particularly if it's a family member who hurt you.

Finally in the event of them apologizing after the tirade, remember always to forgive them.




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