You are dismayed and you just cannot quite believe what you are hearing.
Someone in your church has confronted you with something you had said to them in a previous conversation but they are repeating it to you in a different tone and manner in which you had displayed in the first instance.

There are people like that, and for some reason they have chosen to distort the conversation and verbally attack you.

You are aghast but you try to handle the situation calmly and with reserve, explaining that you never intended your conversation to be interpreted in the manner in which the listener is now repeating it to you.
Whilst all this is going on you are feverishly trying to work out in your mind how the person could have misunderstood you and why they are being so aggressive towards you. You distinctly remember the conversation and it was nothing like the interpretation you are now hearing and no amount of persuasion from you is going to change your friends attitude.

You slowly begin to realize that no matter what you say or how you say it, you are not going to persuade the person in front of you that they have it all wrong. They believe what they believe they heard you say and how you said it.


At this stage it's probably better to apologise, though they may not even listen to an apology, then back off with a pleasant goodbye. Go home when you are ready, and as soon as possible pray about the misunderstanding. You may still be deeply dismayed but you have to pray about it asking God to forgive the other person for the manner in which they approached you.

Now leave it in God's hands to deal with, get on with living your life, place the entire regrettable misunderstanding behind you and put it down to experience.

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